Your top 20 friends? Isn't that a little rude?

Now even though it's Snoozy Sunday I do have something to rant about today as you may have guessed.


I was looking on my facebook and noticed one of my friends - whom I feel I should delete following my rant about facebook friends and picking them - had a picture called 'My Top 20 Friends' Now that just sounds mean to me.


Not from the title, no obviously the people in the list are quiet happy they were picked and are silently gloating to the people behind them. But what does seem cruel or at least strange to me is the fact that you could rate your friends. How could you say which friend is the best and which is not the best but still great? I mean it is very easy to pinpoint the best friend you have and the worst but not the ones in between.


I mean I have some shitty friends and I have some good friends. No one I'm especially close to. I consider all my friends to be on an equal playing field to some extent. Each one has done good and ill towards me so I tend not to rate them with a number. If I sat down and thought about it I could pinpoint a friend that has done the least ill towards me and stood by me. If he reads this blog he knows who he is but I couldn't honestly say whom is a second to him or whom is a third. It wouldn't be possible.


Now it's not just the fact that I'd find it hard. I would honestly find it rude. My friends know they are my friends so why would they need more? Why would they want to know that they just aren't as good as someone else in terms of friendship to me? Obviously you read this and say.
"Oh but Matthew it's just a bit of fun. No one thinks anything of it."
But I think it does. I think on a deep level they are effected by this and it hurts them. A lot of them are even hurt on a more obvious level and show that you have offended them by numbering them. I think doing something like 'My Top 20 Friends' effects how people treat you and how you are seen as a friend.


All my friends are number 3. The reason being that there is no number one. Everyone has done good and bad and it levels out like the natural order.


Why do you have the right to say who of your friends is the best? Should it really be up to you? Your best friend is never the person you think it is. Your best friend is the one that doesn't need to say he/she is anything more than your friend. He/she is the one that just stands by you and talks to you. A friend who has saved your life. But abandoned a hundred times over when you needed them. Is nothing compared to the friend who has always been there for a nice chat before you leave school or work.


You should not put your friends on a list from highest to lowest or vice versa. You should put your friends in one big collage of names.


- Matt
It's Sunday why am I even awake?